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Updated: Jul 5

Are you a victim of domestic violence?

Are you not sure? I encourage you to watch a recent Domestic Violence CLE ("Continuing Legal Education") I gave not too long ago. In this domestic violence class, I presented the Power and Control Wheel (The Duluth Model) to help identify the dynamics of intimate partner violence. I encourage you to watch the video to help you decide if you think you might be a victim of abuse.

If you believe you are a victim of violence, then I encourage you to get to a safe place before planning any legal steps. There are legal documents called Protective Orders, which keep an aggressor away from the victim. Below I will go in depth on this topic.

What is a Protective Order?

A Protective Order is a civil court order that is designed to stop an abuser from continuing acts of violence, threatening, harassing, or stalking. The person who requests the order is known as the “applicant” or “petitioner”. The person restricted by the order is known as the “respondent”.

Protective Orders are important in ending family violence. The purpose of a Protective Order is to:

  • prevent future violence;

  • identify appropriate and inappropriate behavior; and

  • reinforce beliefs that family violence is wrong and needs to be stopped.

A judge can create various conditions of a Protective Order. For example, a judge may order a respondent to vacate a residence, pay child support, attend counseling, and/or not possess a firearm. They also may order that the Respondent not come within 100 yards of the Petitioner or have any contact whatsoever with the Petitioner. Abusers who violate a Protective Order can be fined, arrested, or both.

It is important to note that a Protective Order is different from a Temporary Restraining Order. If you have a TRO, you can enforce that by going to court. The judge can order the violator of a TRO to go to jail for contempt (up to six months) and pay a fine. There is no immediate arrest and the violation of a TRO is treated as a civil matter. A Protective Order is enforced as a criminal matter. The violator can go to jail and the police will cooperate with you in assuring your safety and the violator’s arrest.

Who is Eligible for a Protective Order?

Victims of family violence are eligible for a Protective Order. In Texas, “family violence” means an act by a member of a family or household against another member of the family or household that is intended to result in physical harm, bodily injury, assault, or sexual assault or that is a threat that reasonably places the member in fear of imminent physical harm, bodily injury, assault, or sexual assault, but does not include defensive measures to protect oneself.

A court shall render a Protective Order if the court finds that family violence has occurred and is likely to occur in the future. Thus, even after you have left the abusive situation and have gone to a safe place, if family violence might occur again in the future you may be entitled to a Protective Order. A victim’s testimony about past family violence may be enough to obtain a Protective Order, even if there is no police report.

In Texas, “family” has a very broad definition. Family can include relatives by blood or marriage, former spouses, parents of the same child (even if not married), foster parents or foster children, or any member or former member of a household (whether or not related by blood or marriage).

If you know someone who is being victimized by family violence, there IS something you can do. Any adult member of the family or household may file an application for a Protective Order to protect himself or herself or any other member of the applicants family or household. An application for a Protective Order may be filed by an adult member of the dating relationship or any adult may apply for a Protective Order to protect a child from family violence. In addition, an application may be filed for the protection of any person alleged to be a victim of family violence by: (1) a prosecuting attorney; or (2) the Department of Protective and Regulatory Services.

Please contact your local law enforcement or domestic violence prevention agency immediately if you or someone you care about is a victim of family violence. Even if you are not eligible for a Protective Order, there may be other options available.

How do you Obtain a Protective Order?

The first step in applying for a Protective Order is to complete an application. The application may be obtained through the office of the county or district attorney, a private attorney, or a legal aid program. In some communities, domestic violence advocacy groups also provide assistance in obtaining Protective Orders. The application for a Protective Order must be filed in either the county where the victim lives or the county where the offender lives and the applicant’s address can be kept confidential. There are no minimum time limits to establish residency, so even if you have not lived in the same county for very long, you may still file an application for a Protective Order in that county. Protective Orders are available in every county in Texas.

Protective Orders are also available for people going through a divorce. However, in this case, the Protective Order must be filed in the same court where the divorce is pending and the pleadings in both matters must state that the other matter is also pending. It is important to remember that a Protective Order is not a custody determination and cannot be used by one party to gain an advantage in a divorce proceeding.

How Much Does a Protective Order Cost?

Applying for a Protective Order is free. An applicant for a Protective Order may not be charged a fee by the county or district attorney’s office or by a sheriff or constable in connection with the filing, serving, modifying, or withdrawing a Protective Order. There is also no cost for certifying copies, court reporter fees, or any other service related to a Protective Order. If the respondent is found to have committed family violence, the court order must require the respondent to pay all court costs, fees, charges, or expenses incurred in connection with the order. However, if the applicant chooses to use a private attorney for assistance, the applicant may still have to pay for the attorney’s time in assisting with the Protective Order. In this case, the court can order a respondent who has committed family violence to pay the private attorney’s fees.

How Long Does a Protective Order Last?

If the court reviewing the application determines that there is a real threat of immediate family violence, the court may issue a temporary ex parte order which is valid for up to twenty (20) days. An “ex parte” order simply means that the court hears from only one party, without notice to or argument from the other party. The court will then set a hearing date for a final Protective Order, usually no more than fourteen days after the application is submitted. At this hearing, the court will decide whether or not to grant a final Protective Order. If granted, the final Protective Order may be effective for up to two (2) years.

If a person subject to the Protective Order is imprisoned on the date the Protective Order would expire, the period for which the order is effective can be extended and the order will expire one year after the person is released from confinement. A new Protective Order can also be requested after an earlier Protective Order has expired or while one is still in effect, so long as the earlier Protective Order is set to expire within thirty (30) days of the date the new application for Protective Order is filed.

What Does a Protective Order Actually Do?

No piece of paper can protect you from all incidents of violence; however, a Protective Order provides a good deterrent in most situations. A Protective Order can require the abuser to stay away from the victim’s home, workplace, and children’s schools or day care centers (if the children are protected persons in the order). It can order the abuser to stop communicating in a harassing manner with or threatening the victim. Protective Orders can require the abuser to attend counseling, to pay child support, and to pay spousal support. All of the provisions in the order can be enforced in court. Some violations, but not all, can result in the police taking the abuser to jail if he or she violates the order.

Local law enforcement agencies are notified of Protective Orders in their area. If an offender violates an order, law enforcement personnel will seek to arrest the offender and have criminal charges filed against him or her. The offender may also be punished by the judge who issued the order by being fined, jailed, or both. If a violation occurs in an officer’s presence, the violator will be arrested if he or she can be readily located. Other violations might require an officer to obtain a warrant prior to making an arrest.

In November of 2007, Texas voters approved Proposition 13, more commonly known as the “Family Violence Amendment”. This amendment to the Texas Constitution provides that any person in Texas accused of family violence can be taken into custody and have their bail denied pending trial — regardless of whether the offense is a felony or misdemeanor — if they violate an order for emergency protection or an active Protective Order.

You need to be really sure that you want to discontinue all contact with the person that you are seeking a Protective Order from. If you think you may reconcile, or want to reconcile, you should not seek a Protective Order. The court will not look favorably upon you if you get a Protective Order, reconcile, and then are abused again. In fact, that could be grounds for Child Protective Services to step in and take your children out of the situation.


This article is intended to provide you with a brief overview of the legal system as it pertains to Protective Orders and is not intended to replace legal advice from an attorney. If you have specific legal questions, you should seek counsel from an attorney in your area. The lawyers at Christopher Meyer Law Firm, PLLC are experienced with Protective Orders and Protective Order Defense, and we can walk you through the process of acquiring a Protective Order, to protect you and your children from abuse.

(c) 2023 Christopher Meyer Law Firm, PLLC All Rights Reserved The information on this video is for general information, entertainment and educational purposes only. Nothing herein should be taken as legal advice for any individual case or situation This information is not intended to create, and receipt or viewing does not constitute, an attorney client relationship Please call (281) 845-2472 if you have any questions about this disclaimer.

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