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The 10 Faces of an Abuser

Updated: Jan 20


This video is about the 10 faces of an abuser. All faces have one thing in common and that is a desire to have power and control over the victim.


  1. SEXUAL VIOLENCE

  2. PHYSICAL VIOLENCE

  3. EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Putting her down. Making her feel bad about herself. Calling her names. Making her think she’s crazy. Playing mind games. Humiliating her. Making her feel guilty.

  4. INTIMIDATION: Making her afraid by using looks, actions and gestures. Smashing things. Destroying her property. Abusing pets. Displaying weapons.

  5. ECONOMIC ABUSE: Preventing her from getting or keeping a job. Making her ask for money. Giving her an allowance. Taking her money. Not letting her know about or have access to family income.

  6. ISOLATION: Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, and where she goes. Limiting her outside involvement. Using jealousy to justify actions.

  7. COERCION AND THREATS: Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her. Threatening to leave her, commit suicide, or report her to welfare. Making her drop charges. Making her do illegal things.

  8. MINIMIZING, DENYING, AND BLAMING: Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously. Saying the abuse didn’t happen. Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior. Saying she caused it.

  9. MALE PRIVILEGE: Treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the “master of the castle,” being the one to define men’s and women’s roles.

  10. USING CHILDREN: Making her feel guilty about the children. Using the children to relay messages. Using visitation to harass her. Threatening to take the children away.


CITATION: The Mind of Chris Meyer and the Power and Control Wheel


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